I have this phobia that something will happen to me and then my kids will be traumatized for life, though the material conditions of having a parent with a disability and health problems can be traumatizing anyway.
One of my friends stresses staying in the meditative state as much as possible, esp. approaching surgery. I think I need to do that. I have trust issues, though, and am not sure I even trust the spiritual to keep everything in divine order. My friend is so much more centered than me.