My apologies that I am behind on posting comments and on replying to them. I'll try to be back more soon--last week was a high pain week but also a high activity week--it was Fine Arts week at the kids' school, which meant events every night except Wednesday, on which my daughter had a violin audition for middle school. And double events Monday, barely making it to my son's Cub Scout crossover ceremony on time.
I'm sorry to say it's been a bad pet week or two. My mother-in-law called this morning to say not to come over for lunch, that she was having to put her 9-year-old dog to sleep--kidney failure from Cushing's disease. Thirty minutes later we discovered one of our son's pet mice, Corn, had passed away. My husband thought about pet replacement rather than telling my son since my son grieves so hard about his little pets. When Mousie died when he was six, it just about broke his heart. My son keeps trying to think of what might have caused Corn to die, but she was healthy (so we thought), and very cared for. I feel bad, too, wondering if there's something else we could have done, though I don't think so. Spots, Corn's sister, seems somewhat surprised about being by herself.
Last week, my daughter's aquatic frog that we really thought was going to die at several points before passed away last week. The big tumor this froggy had spontaneously disappeared, and she had many more months, though she couldn't swim a lot at the end. The froggy was a gift from her teacher, so that was hard. Now her betta fish that she's owned for a few years is in grief and doing very poorly. Yes, the aquarium is in good, clean condition, water quality appropriately controlled. I know the betta has a dot sized brain, but he really liked the frog even more than he likes to watch us (always drawing near when we're washing dishes or sitting on the couch--he's in an aquarium on the ledge between our kitchen and living room). The first day was the hardest for him. One of my son's baby African dwarf frogs has been AWOL for a while. The frogs actually have been replaced a few times (shhhhh!). I'm torn between wanting him to know and sparing him unnecessary grief for animals that have very short life spans. Years back, he lost two tadpoles that never turned into frogs but lived an unnaturally long time as tadpoles (almost a year).
As Lene at The Seated View points out, Mercury's been retrograde a while. No, we don't have the house on the market yet though we're making it so far (with fear in our chests)--I don't always remember what I've updated people on here and it would make sense for people to assume that we've been able to do so since I haven't said otherwise. In April I had some other big matters to take care of for most of the month since I didn't want years of work to go down the drain, though we still worked on house projects and ebay too as we could. My pain has been so bad I've been having trouble keeping up with daily tasks, which means my husband must take up more of those. With that, applying for jobs full time (really) and dealing with financial matters, going to several stores to save money (six stores on the list this week, but who can pass up 88 cent Triscuits or Cool Whip for free since the kids eat it with their berries), various applications for all kinds of programs which save money but require a lot of paperwork, we are a bit beat, though we're still muddling through. We have done a lot of ebay though need to do more--setting up auctions can take us a half day on Sundays, then we have packages to mail out Monday and Tuesday. House projects we still have left to do: repaint the trim on the baseboards, scrub and wash the window screens and windows outside and in, clean the light fixtures, clean out the garage, some of my old clothes to a consignment store, ebay more of the kids' clothes (or consignment store--harder to find those for the 'tween ages), retile half-bath, fix trim near bathroom shower, steam clean the carpet, repaint two rooms that really need it. Sigh. If only my pain were less I could keep up with more of the daily tasks so that my husband could keep up with these bigger projects. Yes we can let some things go for a while and do--but even then we are having trouble keeping up. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by our inabilities sometimes. Yes, we're doing things, but at a turtle's pace. My in-laws are exhausted helping out with my great-grandmother and my parents are not in good health and really can't help a lot physically. My mom has helped get shoes for my son, swimsuits for the kids, and other items that my daughter needs for camp, so yes that helps, so we've been shopping for that. Plus there's been all the kids' activities.
Maybe with April projects and kids' activities winding down we can make more headway soon. Maybe my pain flares will diminish. The past couple of days were a little better, though today's not great.