My mother called me last night to apologize that the potato salad at Mother's Day lunch wasn't really made by her but was storebought and she was feeling really guilty about it. Her potato salad recipe is outstanding but takes four hours to make a big batch. I told her that was fine, that often I/we don't have the energy to make something that takes a lot of time anymore either. This generation doesn't have such guilt about that though! And this has got to be gendered. While my husband makes great recipes, I just wouldn't see the guilt.
Of course some mothers are very different from mine. Last week we left volleyball practice 30 minutes in because some moms were being rude to me as they don't do when one of my friends is there or can at least ignore then--I mean making fun of me on the basis of disability ("her husband must be SOOOO proud of her" was the last straw). This week we did not attend practice but the coach had to cancel the practice halfway through because some of the girls were being so disrespectful to her. Let me tell you, I know exactly which girls because they are because I've sat through two seasons with them and one of them almost caused us to forfeit our game twice by arguing with the referee or showing her temper. Let me say I know exactly where they're getting their behavior. I hope the coach isn't so unlucky as to have some of the same set next year, but we're changing teams. My friend is coaching (she was on volleyball scholarship in college) and loading the team with people we already know.