To my surprise (shock?), my grandfather was back off the oxygen mask this morning, eating fine on his own, and talking well. So he was able to say exactly what he wanted and didn't want in very clear terms. This makes it much easier for everyone. What annoys me is that the nurse wrote in his chart last night that he did not want to be intubated again at all and that is absolutely untrue. They are considering a trach and hospice, intubation if needed for a while again briefly. The nurse had no right to do that, and no one said that to her.
We may be on this roller coaster a while until a point of stasis is achieved or if he passes away soon. He has strong willpower! That's good--it's gotten him very far in his life and allowed him to be healthy and strong as long as possible.
Anyway, it is good that he can express what he wants very clearly and others don't have to make that decision right now. My grandmother is fine with his decision, and that's what counts.
My grandmother is wearing herself down, insisting on being at the hospital 15 hours a day.
Now my husband's grandmother was hospitalized this morning with COPD too, at a different hospital, but not in ICU. Everything at once!