Photograph publically available on the web. There's another full page of it which I'm just too embarrassed to share.
This image is from a murder mystery tea party. This page from the online photo album features a character named Barbara, complete with her pretend neck brace, complaints about her wheelchair, etc., while others point out that she's a hypochondriac and a hypocrite (or is at least perceived to be) since she can go swimming, pole dancing, and has been caught skating. Thoughts? I'm interested since people don't understand why I, an intermittent wheelchair user, am sensitive about it (actually some do, others don't). Yes, these are people I know. The young woman in front is a newly minted PhD from my school, the woman hosting is a lawyer whom I've known for sixteen years, and my mother-in-law also attended and participated. The lawyer is also one of my mother-in-law's two best friends.
You can click the image to make it larger, though the text is still difficult to read. The caption reads: "Barbara looked so ill, we wondered if she would survive the party." And the relevant commentary (the characters are accusing each other of murder) reads:
Dear Big Feather Betty,
Shakespeare also said to kill all the lawyers. Methinks this to be a good idea. Your insulting words are to me "like the breath of an unfee'd lawyer".
You know I am in very delicate health and must watch exposure to every sort of contamination and upsetting situations. I also try to get the proper amount of exercise and pole dancing is an excellent form of exercise. I go to the facility at which Rachel saw me Sat. night for the pole. I breathe through my mouth, a technique I learned from old Marilyn Monroe films, while I exercise there so I don't inhale the smoke. Barbara
Rachel, Do you have handicap parking in front of your house? I require a special parking place due to my frailties.
Cut the crap! I saw you at the skate park last week and my PI took the following footage, and that was before Rachel saw you pole dancing. Bring your motorized wheel chair if you can't walk to the door! I believe Rachel's sidewalk is safer than the skate park...
Betty, I saw BABBLING BARBARA at the Water Park on Thursday trying to get someone to take her in as they would not let her come in a motorized wheelchair. She was drooling and whinnnning all over the gate. I think if she needs a handicap parking she should park at the library and motor on over, just give herself enough time as we can't wait for her when it's time to sipppp the tea. I am looking forward to this party and I know I don't have to sit next to the babbling whinning Barb.
As loving as always, AGNES
Truly I can't help but see it as a personal attack. While my sisters-in-law don't think so, they (unlike Rachel and my mother-in-law) actually understand me and have been my friends (one of them since childhood). My mother-in-law, in contrast, has been mean for the past two full years. The more ill I am, the more mean she is. There has been a marked change in our relationship since I've become more disabled. She sees me as lazy and thinks I just need to be more positive, to use better posture and to exercise more. Her own daughters have told me she will never understand my health issues. Ironically, she has multiple but mostly more minor medical problems herself. She doesn't understand intermittent disability or changing pain levels. She doesn't understand why I need a scooter out but not at her house (I actually do, but can't get it into her house).
Because of my in-laws' continuing criticism, I recently finally told my in-laws, at my husband's suggestion, that I want privacy about my health and don't want to discuss it with them.
Even if this is from a boxed game, I still find it highly insensitive and reprehensible. All of the other characters just had a photo and a short phrase to describe them, none of this at all.